2015年2月10日星期二

Taxi phrases not on textbook

When you first see this title you might lose interest in reading this article because you can find related phrases in every textbook. But before you close the page, let me tell you a past experience of mine.
One summer I brought two of my best students to Shanghai for a long field trip. One of the purposes of this trip was to immerse them in Chinese. So they were supposed to complete some language based tasks. One day after a visit at campus, I told them: “Now I’m going to visit my friends, so you should go back by yourselves by taxi.” It was a very simple task for them since they had already been learning for two years and they were trained with survival phrases. All they needed to tell the driver was where they wanted to go. This is how the dialogue would usually go:

Driver:你好,你要去哪儿?/ 你去哪里?(Nǐ hǎo, nǐ yào qù nǎr? / Nǐ qù nǎlǐ?)
Hello, where are you going?
Passenger:我要去……/ 我去…… (Wǒ yào qù …. / Wǒ qù …)
I’m going to…
I was so confident in their Chinese ability until I got their call 5 minutes later because the driver asked a question that never show up in their textbook.

Driver:要走高架吗?( Yào zǒu gāojià ma?)
Do you want to take the elevated highway?
This type of question can be very frustrating for everyone learning Chinese. I realized no matter how much you learn from your textbook, there are some commonly used phrases you miss out on. The textbook is designed to teach the basics, but you need something more specific to the situations. So let’s look at these out of the book phrases that taxi drivers in Shanghai often might ask you.
Q: 你想怎么走?( Nǐ xiǎng zěnme zǒu?)
How would like to go? (Literally the sentence means: “how do you get there?” The driver isn’t lost but asks this question because he wants to make sure he picks up the way you like in case you complain that he takes the long way)
A: If you are an “old China hand”, let him know the way you prefer. If not, 随便 Suíbiàn (up to you) is a good one to imply that you are not just someone who has doesn’t know the way.
Q: 走隧道吗?(zǒu suì dào ma?)
Shall we cross the tunnel?
In Shanghai, Pudong and Puxi are separated by Huangpu River. There are tunnels and bridges that connect two areas, and the driver may ask you which one you prefer. You can answer with either one.
A: 走隧道(zǒu suì dào)。/走大桥(zǒu dà qiáo)。
Go through the tunnel./ Go through the bridge.

Q: 走外环/中环/内环?( zǒu wài huán /zhōng huán /nèi huán?)
Shall we go outer ring/middle ring/inner ring? This is another question about 高架(gāojià). There are three different highways in Shanghai that you can take. Of course, the best answer is still 随便(Suíbiàn).
Q: 卡还是现金?(Kǎ háishì xiànjīn?)
Card or cash? Credit card is not accepted in taxis. The card that they are referring is a ‘transportation card’ 交通卡. If you have one, you can use it however most of the time, just tell them cash.
A: 现金。( Xiànjīn.)
Q: 打表吗?( Dǎ biǎo ma?)
Shall we use the meter? This question is not asked often in town. Technically, it’s illegal to not use the meter. But at the airport or suburb area, sometimes a driver might try to cheat you with the taxi fare. So he might ask and your answer should always be: yes.
A: 请打表。(Qǐng dǎ biǎo.)
Here are some other useful phrases for comfortable taxi ride:
请慢一点(Qǐng màn yīdiǎn)
Please slow down.
I often use this phrase. Sometimes I think taxi drivers drive too fast especially on the way to the airport.

安全带呢?(ān quán dài ne?)
Where is the seatbelt?
Sometimes the seatbelt in back seat is missing. If it is, the driver will tell you that you don’t need a seatbelt. Most of the time, a seatbelt is not required to wear if you are in the back seat.
请轻一点。(qǐng qīng yī diǎn)
Please turn down the radio.
Many drivers like to listen to the radio and there is also a TV on the back of the car. So if you need some peace and quiet, you can use this phrase.
请开一下后备箱。(qǐng kāi yī xià hòu bèi xiāng)
Please open the trunk.
This statement is useful when you have a lot of luggage that you are traveling with that you can’t carry in the back seat with you.
I think now you are ready for a taxi ride in Shanghai. Carry the notes with you and have a safe trip.

2015年1月15日星期四

Annoying ‘好吧’

As a Chinese teacher, I always enjoy teaching Chinese in my class with the standard curriculums. However, I also notice there are multitudes of small pieces of information which wouldn’t be mentioned in a textbook. Hence I decided to share these small treasures of the Chinese language. I think these details will make our communication in Chinese better.
One phrase that has trouble me a lot is: ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’.There was one time when I had an American colleague who struggled with using this phrase correctly. He certainly  knew: ‘好(hǎo)’means‘good’, ‘ok’, ‘great’and‘吧(ba)’ is just a particle word, so for him ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’ was something about ‘great’. Sowhen I would suggest ideas with him at work, he would say‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’. It was confusing and frustrating because I was unclear of his meaning of the phrase.
Let’s look at the following example between a boy and girl:
Boy:明(míng)天(tiān)我(wǒ)们(men)去(qù)看(kàn)电(diàn)影(yǐng)好(hǎo)吗(ma)?
Shall we go to theater tomorrow?
Girl:好(hǎo)吧(ba)。
OK
Boy:如(rú)果(guǒ)你(nǐ)不(bù)想(xiǎng)看(kàn),没(méi)关(guān)系(xi)。
It’s ok if you wouldn’t like to.
When the girl said ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’, the boy definitely felt that she didn’t want to do it. ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’ is usually understood as a compromising OK to a suggestion where you can’t say no and people know you don't like it.When I heard ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’ from him, I was unsure about what my colleague’s attitude was towards me.I thought my colleague never agreed with me and he would never give me suggestions.After some time of hearing it all the time, we figured out the misunderstanding and made sure that he understood how to use it correctly in daily situations.
Since we know ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’ is a unique phrase, what else we can use for positive ‘ok’, ‘good’…? Here are four commonly used words or phrases:
1.       好(hǎo)
2.       好(hǎo)的(de)
3.       行(xíng)
4.       嗯(èn)with a nod (my personal favorite).

Let’s take look at the same example that we looked at earlier using one of the commonly used phrases or words.
Boy: 明(míng)天(tiān)我(wǒ)们(men)去(qù)看(kàn)电(diàn)影(yǐng)好(hǎo)吗(ma)?
Shall we go to the theater tomorrow?
Girl: 好(hǎo)!/好(hǎo)的(de)!/行(xíng)!/嗯(èn)
OK.
As you can see, when using one these four phrases it will be clear that girl definitely would like to go with the boy to see that movie. She didn’t make it seem like a large ordeal to go to the movies with the boy. Now they can happily enjoy the movie tomorrow.
‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’is still useful in the right situation.For example, I always get ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’ from students as I assign homework:
Vera: 今(jīn)天(tiān)的(de)作(zuò)业(yè)是(shì)写(xiě)一(yī)篇(piān)作(zuò)文(wén)。
Home work for today is to write an essay.
Students:好(hǎo)吧(ba)。
OK.
In this case, I understand what they mean. You should make sure you are using the phrases correctly as it is important for you to appropriately convey your message. So if you can’t say ‘no’ and you do want people know you don’t like it, say this aloud ‘好(hǎo)吧(ba)’!Stay tune for next tip and see you next time.


2014年12月2日星期二

Lesson 4: Yes? No?

Compare to English, I think the structure of question sentence in Chinese is much easier. The yes-or-no question is pretty similar as a statement sentence. The only difference is the question mark character ‘吗’(ma). Put ‘吗’(ma) at the end of a statement sentence and now you are asking question.
Let’s take sentences we learnt as an example:
Statement: 我(wǒ)是(shì)Vera。= I’m Vera.
Question: 我(wǒ)是(shì)Vera吗(ma)?= Am I Vera?

Statement: 我(wǒ)爱(ài)你(nǐ)。= I love you.
Question: 我(wǒ)爱(ài)你(nǐ)吗?= Do I love you? (Actually ‘你(nǐ)爱(ài)我(wǒ)吗(ma)?’ is more useful. It is said in a relationship, it’s a most frequent asked question by a girl.)

There is no order changing in a yes-or-no question in Chinese. When you know a statement sentence, you can always changed it to a question. Notices: you still need a question mark ‘?’, although you already have ‘吗(ma)’.

The answer for such a question is easy, too. In most cases:
yes=是(shì)
no=不(bù)
A:你(nǐ)爱(ài)我(wǒ)吗(ma)?
B:是(shì)。

A:你(nǐ)是(shì)Vera吗(ma)?
B:不(bù)。

I know you learnt something now. But all this you can find on textbook. Why do you read this? Because I have something that not on textbook. Every time, when I taught this in class, I was confused. I noticed though ‘是(shì)’ and ‘不(bù)’ are standard answers to a yes-or-no question, not a lot of people will really use that. So let’s see how a real Chinese will answer the question:
A:你(nǐ)是(shì)Vera吗(ma)?
B:是(shì)的(de)。
I guess modern Chinese language prefers a two syllables, so a lot of people will use ‘是的’(shìde) instead of ‘是(shì)’.

A:你(nǐ)喜(xǐ)欢(huan)狗(gǒu)吗(ma)?
B:嗯(èn)。
This one is always used with a nod. It’s also often used in a call. I will say ‘嗯’(èn), ‘嗯’(èn), ‘嗯’(èn) during a call just like you will say  ‘yes’, ‘yes’, ‘yes’.

A:你(nǐ)喜欢(xǐhuan)咖啡(kāfēi)吗(ma)?
B:喜欢(xǐhuan)。/不(bù)喜(xǐ)欢(huan)
Repeat the verb is another common way to express ‘yes’. For negative, use ‘不’+ verb.




2014年11月13日星期四

How close we are?

In psychology, a concept ‘communicative distance’ is supposed to determine the comfortable distance between two people. It is said distance less than 0.5 meter is only good for couples or families, which makes me think if I’m that close to my parents?

If you remember, I mentioned in a former blog the first time I said ‘我爱你,妈妈’ was the day I knew I passed my college entrance exam. And that was the first time I hugged her. I was already 18 years old at time. It didn't mean that we didn't love each other. I will say it’s just not something we will do to show how close we are.

When I tried to figure out the reason, I realized I couldn't. It’s too complicated. It’s about all those culture for 5000 years. What I can do is try to tell you how that works in my life not the reason. My family is a pretty typical working class family. I think although my parents tried to be close to my life physically, they keep a distance from my mental life. For ‘physically’, I mean they take good care of me including my food, my clothing, my education and so on. But ‘hug’ is another thing. It’s not just physical touch. It’s a way of ‘loving’. I will say they are too shy to express ‘love’ although they do everything they can to love me, to protect me. That’s an important part of Chinese culture ‘implicit’ (I don’t know if I use this word right.)

I love you without saying a word.

But time is flowing, things are getting different. If we go back to 200 years ago, a father was even not supposed to smile or to praise his son or daughter. At least my father always smiles to me. And now a lot of families are more westernized. Younger parents are braver to show their love to kids. They kiss their kids, hug them, say ‘I love you’ to them. So do kids.

Sometimes, I still feel regret. I felt so warm when I hug my American family and friends. I hope I can do same thing to my family. Unfortunately I can’t. It’s just too stranger. However, I know we still love each other without saying it.


2014年11月11日星期二

Lesson3: I’m a beauty!

If there is a verb we need to learn first, I will say it’s definitely 是(shì). As a verb, it’s usually translated into ‘to be’. One thing surprised me was one of my American student didn’t understand what ‘to be’ is. I spent a lot of time on explaining it’s ‘am, is, are’. As I mentioned before, there is no verb conjugation. So 是(shì) is the only word for ‘am, is, are’ in Chinese. It’s often used as:

Subject + 是(shì) + Object.

Generally, the usage is quite similar as English. I will say it’s quite boring. But in this sentence pattern, the object should be a noun not an adjective. Now let’s practice a little. Here is some words:
我(wǒ)      I
你(nǐ)      you
他(tā)      he
这(zhè)      this
那(nà)      that
中(zhōng)国(guó)人(rén)    Chinese people
美(měi)国(guó)人(rén)      American people
美(měi)女(nǚ)         beauty
帅(shuài)哥(gē)       handsome guy
傻(shǎ)子(zi)         fool
天(tiān)才(cái)        genius

Make creative sentences as much as possible.

我(wǒ)是(shì)美(měi)女(nǚ)!

The reason why I selected 是 today is not just because the verb ‘to be’. It’s ‘yes’ in Chinese, too. How important that is! Technically, any yes-no question can be answered as ‘是’. Every time my teacher or boss talk to me, I will continuously say:  ‘是’, ‘是’, ‘是’ with a sincere face, which can make their speech as short as possible.

BTW, the title is just an example sentence. I didn’t mean it.

2014年11月4日星期二

Lesson2: All about name.

In Confucius’s philosophy, ‘name’ is a very important concept. So in lesson two, let’s talk about ‘name’.

我(wǒ)叫(jiào)~~

If you open any textbook, you can definitely see that sentence. It’s still a basic sentence: Subject + Verb + Object. The verb here ‘叫’ means ‘to call’, ‘to be called’. Literally the sentence means ‘I am called…’. If you want to ask others’ name:
A:你(nǐ)叫(jiào)什(shén)么(me)名(míng)字(zì)?
B:我(wǒ)叫(jiào)张(zhāng)晓(xiǎo)丽(lì)。
什(shén)么(me)   what
名(míng)字(zì)   name

If we look at the name ‘张(zhāng)晓(xiǎo)丽(lì)’, in most cases, the first character is a surname. There are hundreds of surname in Chinese. If you are interested in that, a book <百(bǎi)家(jiā)姓(xìng)> lists most common surname. Back to the first name, unlike western name, Chinese parents pick one or two meaningful characters for kid. Take my name as example: ‘晓(xiǎo)’ is a character that for my generation in my family. My paternal cousins all share that character. The last one ‘丽(lì)’ means ‘pretty’. My parents wished I was pretty! So sad that wish not always come true. But you can still pick one or two characters you like as your Chinese name.

Sounds wonderful right? Actually not. Technically you can choose any characters you like, however there are some rules you need to pay attention:
1.    Don’t name yourself as an object: 猫(māo),狗(gǒu),苹(píng)果(guǒ),牛(niú)奶(nǎi)(For meaning of these words, please go back to the last lesson)… I do have a student named himself as ‘bacon’. I mean I can tell his passion of food but it’s not a good Chinese name at all.
2.    No negative image in Chinese: 鬼(guǐ)(ghost), 血(xuè)(blood), 泪(lèi)(tear)…
3.    Some characters only suit girl. Vice verse.

Tips: if you don’t have any Chinese friends help you to check your Chinese name, here are some safe characters for name.
Male: 伟(wěi)-great,仁(rén)-mercy,德(dé)-moral,光(guāng)-bright,明(míng)-bright, smart,诚(chéng)-loyal, 轩(xuān)-high,tall,康(kāng)-healthy,文(wén)-knowledgeable.
Female:婷(tíng)-tall and pretty,颖(yǐng)-smart,妍(yán)-beautiful,文(wén)- knowledgeable,慧(huì)-smart,雪(xuě)-snow, pure,静(jìng)-quiet, peaceful,玉(yù)-jade

Last but not the least, don’t call your friend’s Chinese name before you make sure you are close enough. It’s very rude for one to call others’ name especially those who are elder or in the higher position than you. I thought I was quite comfortable with American culture until one day, my colleague introduced me to her cute 8-year-old girl: This is Vera, say ‘Hi’. Since that time, she always calls me ‘Vera’. I mean I understand that’s American culture. But this is the image in my mind: